I want to share with you a realization I recently had about holding onto the past and feeling regret.
We've all experienced it, that feeling of looking back and wishing we could have done something differently, wishing we had made another choice or regretting our actions in a situation.
The reality is that we cannot change the past, we can only change our actions now in order to build a brighter future!
What happens when we regret?
First of all, on the vibratory scale (see scale of vibration on the right- taken from rising vibe.com), regret is a very low vibration (20 on this chart- low vibe!), which basically means it makes us feel absolutely awful. It leaves us feeling powerless and can cause us to sit in the victim mentality and self sabotage. This in
turn blocks us from realizing our true potential for moving forward and for creating our own reality.
The problem with sitting and regretting the past is that it holds us in that same low vibration which over time, causes a pattern to form- meaning we will keep vibrating at that same frequency and therefore we will keep unconsciously attracting the same situations to us over and over again, i.e. like energy attracts like energy or in other words we attract back to us what we put out into the Universe.
Regret drains our energy and zest for life, it gives us the excuse to stay 'stuck' and it keeps us from moving forward. It keeps us in the past, wondering 'what if?', but this serves no purpose towards being in the present moment or building our future. We will just continue going around in a loop, leaving no room for growth or expansion- which could otherwise lead to us creating a better future for ourselves.
We are here NOW! The only time we will ever have is RIGHT NOW, so we should use this time wisely to build a better tomorrow!
What can we do instead?
Instead of being angry and regretting choices, a great option is to look at the lessons we have learnt from the situation at hand and make a better choice going forward with the new perspective gained.
Remember that whenever the choice was made, we did so using the knowledge and experience that we had at that moment in time. How could we have known any better?
The thing is, we didn't know any better and we also didn't know what we know right now- this is where our new knowledge kicks in and we get the chance to value our own personal experiences.
Questions we can ask ourselves to increase our awareness and feel empowered going forward:
"Do I want to remain the same or do I want to choose something different?"
"What would I do differently if I was met with the same scenario?"
"What value have I gained from this experience?"
"What am I grateful for?"
Why is this so important?
If we have had a lesson come into our lives and we gained some new knowledge or perspective, but refuse to see it that way and instead, choose to remain in regret, then all of the pain we've experienced was absolutely pointless!
We won't be able to move on and reach our true potential.
The purpose of lessons and experiences is for us to grow,expand and make better choices in the future with the knowledge gained along the way.
Remember: It was a life lesson not a life sentence!
So now what? If you're like me you're probably thinking, well that's all well and good but how the heck do I just let these things go? How do I get past them and move on?